In Theaters October 21


Sonia is a neurotic jingle writer who’s always dreamt of a big and exciting life. Surprised by a sudden proposal and subsequent ultimatum from her easy-going boyfriend, Chris, Sonia has to decide whether she’ll join the ranks of her married friends or take a leap and pursue her fantasies. A whimsical romantic comedy that’s raunchy and yet gentle, IT HAD TO BE YOU explores the choices women face today while satirizing cultural expectations of gender and romance.


IT HAD TO BE YOU is a very personal film. When my husband proposed (or tried to), rather than seeing hearts and hearing violins, I was filled with a panic and terror reserved for climactic horror movie scenes. I yelled, waved my arms in the air like a lunatic attempting to indicate that he should stop, and pretty soon was unable to see or hear as adrenaline took over my body. And keep in mind - this was a man I loved very

I must admit, this was not the first time in my life that my reaction to or an experience of an event greatly lashed with cultural expectations or norms. It was often anxiety-provoking and confusing, but thankfully it was also usually very funny. At least in retrospect.

As I got a little older I encountered a lot of women - friends and colleagues of all ages - who described a similar dissonance between expectation and reality. My proposal debacle was the pinnacle of that dissonance for me and so I decided to make a film about it. And as I started working on this film, I had countless women confess to me that when their husbands popped the question, the feelings and thoughts that they experienced were also quite complicated and far from the pure bliss that was expected of them. It was both great fun and a relief to learn that I wasn’t alone in my fears and I loved hearing the stories of others’ bumpy journeys to “I do”.

And lastly, I wanted to make this movie because I’m a rom com junkie and I wasn’t seeing the kind of movies that I wanted to see anymore in the theaters. I wanted to see a movie that had a flawed, funny, searching protagonist that was a woman and not a man. I wanted to see a movie that echoed the older romantic comedies (”Annie Hall”, “When Harry Met Sally”) and was truly character and not set-piece driven, but that was dressed with the modern trappings of today’s frank/carnal humor. I wanted to portray a relationship in all its flawed everyday beauty and I wanted to do so through my particular female lens. More than anything, I wanted to create a film that was current in its humor, but timeless in its heart.


christin-miliotiCRISTIN MILIOTI, as Sonia

Born in Cherry Hill, NJ, Cristin Milioti is a Tony-nominated, and Grammy-winning actress known for her work on “How I Met Your Mother” in the titular role of the Mother, “Wolf of Wall Street”, “30-Rock”, “A to Z”, “The Mindy Project” and the Tony-winning musical, “Once”. Cristin has recently joined the cast of FX’s critically acclaimed series “Fargo.”

DAN SODER, as Chris

Originally from Aurora, CO, Dan Soder started doing stand-up at 21 while attending the University of Arizona. He eventually moved to New York City and has become a regular on MTV2’s “Guy Code”, Comedy Central’s “The Half Hour”, “Inside Amy Schumer”, “Conan”, “Opie and Anthony”, “The Anthony Comia Show” and the “You Know What Dude!” Podcast with Robert Kelly.

Halley Feiffer, as Nora

Halley Feiffer is an American Actress and playwright. Her television and film credits include “Squid and the Whale”, “Mildred Pierce”, “Bored to Death” and “Flight of the Concords”. Feiffer’s work as a playwright have been produced, commissioned and developed by Manhattan Theater Club, Second Stage Theatre, New York Theatre Workshop, LAByrinth Theater Company, The Eugene O’Neill Theater Center, Cape Cod Theatre Project, Partial Comfort Productions and the Amoralists. She holds commissions from Manhattan Theater Club, Williamstown Theatre Festival, the Alfred P. Sloan Foundation, and Playwrights Horizons.

Mark Gessner, as Mark

Mark Gessner is a New York City based actor and writer. In spite of his nearly absurd leading-man good looks, he chooses to focus primarily on comedic roles. To whit: you can see him in the upcoming IFC show “Benders” playing the role of Dickie. He has appeared in many wonderful television shows such as “Orange is the New Black”, “The Blacklist”, “Power”, and “Law and Order: SVU”. You may also spy him regularly in pithy and well-written national commercials. He values kindness and gratitude over almost anything else. He is married to the love of his life, has three kids, and loves the New York Rangers. And while his ridiculous height makes it difficult to find pants that fit, he maintains a positive outlook.

KYLE MOONEY, as Gary the Midwife

Kyle Mooney just completed his second season as a featured player on “Saturday Night Live.” In additioning to co-founding the Good Neighbor sketch group, which also features SNL castmate Beck Bennett, Mooney has been a regular writer and performer at UCB since 2007. He starred in the HBO series “Hello Ladies” opposite Stephen Merchant and appeared on NBC’s “Parks and Recreation.” Kyle studied film at the University of Southern California. He is from San Diego and lives in NYC.


Kate Simses was a series regular on ABC series Dr. Ken and Mixology and has done guest spots on such shows as Comedy Central’s Important Things With Demetri Martin, NBC’s 30 Rock, and Law & Order: SVU. Her most recent film work includes roles in That Awkward Moment and What’s Your Number.


Erica Sweany is an actor and multidisciplinary artist.  Television appearances include, “Blacklist”, “Eye Candy”, “Late Night with David Letterman” and “I Love You, But I Lied”.  Recent NY theatre, Honeymoon in Vegas on Broadway, and Anais Mitchell’s Hadestown at New York Theatre Workshop.  Originally from Colorado, she resides in NYC. 

SASHA GORDON - Writer, Director, Composer

Sasha Gordon is an award-winning filmmaker and composer. Born in St. Petersburg, Russia, Sasha immigrated to the US in 1989. Sasha has scored over 50 features and shorts (among them the Oscar-winning “God Of Love”); directed several award-winning shorts (including “Manhattan Melody”, which premiered at the Telluride Film Festival and went on to play all over the world); and is thrilled to have just completed her debut feature, “It Had To Be You”, a subversive romantic comedy starring Cristin Milioti and Dan Soder. Sasha is currently scoring Amazon’s “Gortimer Gibbon’s Life On Normal Street” while writing her second feature.


writer/director SASHA GORDON
producer LEVI ABRINO
executive producer CHRIS COLUMBUS
cinematography BOBBY WEBSTER
production designer KENDALL FLEISHER
music supervisor MICHAEL JURASITS
casting director AVY KAUFMAN
sound design ZACH GOHEEN
co-producer JOSHUA HUME
associate producer ANDREW T BERKOWITZ
associate producer KAISER WAHAB


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